Phone (778) 686-9494
Beautiful Soul Counselling Services, #106 - 3237 King George Blvd, Surrey, BC
Maybe it's that extra 20 pounds you just can't lose.
Perhaps you're struggling with infidelity or substance use or trying to communicate better.
Maybe you're unhappy with your job, your spouse, your relationships, or the way you procrastinate.
Or, it could be that you're coping with depression or anxiety or a dysfunctional family of origin.
If any of the above situations apply to your life, counseling could be helpful. So what's stopping you? The way counseling (often used interchangeably with the word "therapy") is portrayed in movies and on TV can paint a "no way, that's not for me" picture. But in reality, while there's often a couch or a comfy chair, therapists are not detached, distracted listeners who charge an arm and a leg for an hour of their time. And just because you receive counseling doesn't automatically mean that something is wrong with you. Some people think that they need to be in crisis, or that the intensity of the problem or issue has to be bad before they go to therapy – however, people can often benefit from therapy for something as simple as needing help reaching a specific goal or maintaining positive changes in their life.
Are you New to Counselling, or Thinking About Giving it a Try?
It's also easy for people to get hung up on the cost of therapy. It’s true that therapy is expensive compared to some things, but it's an investment and you should expect to get a return on that investment . There are other things that are expensive that we don't question the finances of quite so much, such as hiring a good attorney if you're going through a divorce.
"But aren't therapists just people you're paying to listen to your problems?" No, not exactly - compassionate listening is an important part of the counseling process, but therapists have completed graduate degrees and spent years studying relationships, work environments, conflict resolution, communication, and how people change. This training and experience helps them bring insight into understanding the things that might be driving your habits and choices.
Free 15-Minute “Meet and Greet”
Are you about to go to a counselor for the first time? Whatever your reasons for seeking help, you will be more at ease and get better results if you know what to expect.
Most people start off by meeting with our counsellor (Kim) for a quick, no charge, 15-minute in-person appointment. This session will allow you to get to know each other a bit and discuss the reasons that are bringing you to counselling. Besides getting personal, you can also expect some logistics such as signing some paperwork and discussing details such as confidentiality and payment options.
It’s important to feel comfortable with your therapist and have a good “fit” for successful therapy to take place. This session will help you decide whether Kim will be a good match and whether her approach and personality will work for you, and does not commit you to working with her going forward. If you don't feel comfortable, it is perfectly fine to try someone else - you may not like the first person you meet, but that doesn't mean it's a lost cause. Counselling can be a positive and powerful experience - eventually you'll meet someone you believe you can work with, you just need to keep trying.
If you decide that you want to work with Kim for counselling, your next step will involve making another appointment with her. A first appointment should be a time to get comfortable and acquainted with your counselor as well as with the process of counseling. First appointments are a “get to know you” session in which the client tells the counsellor as much (or as little) as they want to share about themselves and the situation that brought them into counseling.
Kim's clients would probably tell you that first appointments with her tend to be laid back and conversational. She would like her clients to feel that she is a professional who has the skills, knowledge, and experience to help them heal, but would also like them to see her as a human being who has a heart and passion for their well-being. She wants to connect with her clients and have them connect with her, because this connection is where true healing can begin to take root.
It may take time to trust your counsellor. Don't feel rushed to open up, and just let it happen at its own pace. Remember, though, that openness and honesty about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences will help the counsellor to understand your needs and struggles as well as figure out how to best help you.
How Can You Make the Most of Your Counselling Sessions?
Do you have an idea of what you’d like to get out of therapy – how will you know that therapy has been successful? The therapist-client relationship is exactly that - a relationship. You're a co-creator of this relationship. If you go into it saying, “Here are my goals, my expectations, my preferences for how to proceed, and what matters to me the most” you may be able to identify the benefits of counselling in a more concrete way.
Be completely honest. Kim encourages her clients to be honest with her throughout the process, and wants to make sure that they feel comfortable and connected with her during sessions. If for some reason you aren’t connecting with your therapist after a few sessions, let them know! A good counselor will want to know how you’re doing and will be open to suggestions in order to connect with you in the best possible way.
Don’t let the unknowns of therapy keep you from finding peace and joy in your life.
Take charge of your healing by making that first appointment,
and start working towards greater peace, joy, connection, and wellness!
Kim Watt, Clinical Counsellor
Counselling for Individuals & Couples in South Surrey, BC